Three ways to boost your confidence

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  1. Be willing to fail – easier said than done, but a lack of confidence often translates into a fear of failing and looking bad. But if we at least try to overcome our fears, we deny them control over our self-perception. Start small and step a bit out of your comfort zone. It doesn’t matter if you slip or trip or fall. It matters that you get up again.
  2. Let go of your mistakes – letting your mistakes hover over you like a dark cloud guarantees it will rain. Don’t be so hung up on the consequences of the mistake but rather the lesson. Forgive yourself and move on. If you’re constantly reminding yourself about that time you messed up, chances are you’ll mess up again. And that’s not going to help your confidence much.
  3. Be yourself and please yourself – it may not feel like it, but it takes a considerable amount of effort to be someone else. And because we know that we won’t ever be able to pull it off, we lose confidence. Don’t negate yourself and impersonate someone else. Allow yourself to be yourself and work on yourself. It will be much more comfortable and liberating.

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When you look in the mirror

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When you look in the mirror, who do you see? Because the only one staring back is you. At the end of the day, it doesn’t matter what others think of you, it’s about what you think of yourself. I hope you see beauty illuminated by imperfections. I hope you see a full heart in spite of your mistakes. Because you deserve to see yourself for who you really are. I hope you love yourself for who you are. And if that’s too hard at the moment, then I hope you at least try to love yourself more.

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Blow your mind

  
Life can still be full of surprises if we’re willing to seek them out. And sometimes that means we surprise ourselves. Sometimes, when we let go of our expectations and perceptions of the world and ourselves, we can accomplish marvellous things. We can find seeds of courage, hope or determination when we set our minds to it. So don’t be afraid to get stuck in and explore life. It’s full to the brim with possibility, joy and experience. Blow your mind. 

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Happiness shines from within

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We create our own world. Our world is a representation of our experiences, encounters, perceptions, thoughts and feelings. We create our perspectives of good and bad. And with that, we create our senses of happiness and satisfaction and despair and sadness. We attach an emotion to an experience. But happiness shouldn’t be something we only find in particular experiences, because the world is sometimes uncontrollable and unfair. Happiness is something we create within – an emotion we foster due to and in spite of our experiences. We shouldn’t rely on the external world to create our happiness. It’s more about our perspective. We create happiness on the inside. Let the happiness shine from within and create a new world.

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We’re only human

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We are not trainwrecks. We are not washouts. We are not tragedies. We are not wastes of spaces. And even if we can’t convince ourselves otherwise, so what? We’re all these at some point in our lives. We’re only human. We’re only capable of so much. And sometimes things don’t work out. We’re not defined by our mistakes. We are not defined by our baggage. We are not defined by other people’s perceptions. So stop letting yourself be defined by them. Live freely. Live boldly. Live deeply.

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Thought of the Day: Mistakes

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Mistakes. Some might say that they lessen with age. But truthfully, as we get older, we just get more afraid of trying and failing. So we stop putting ourselves out there. But we need to let go of this perception that mistakes are bad. There is no such thing as a bad mistake – with only one exception. The worst mistake we can make is to not forgive others or ourselves for mistakes. Sometimes good people make bad choices. Sometimes people make mistakes with good intentions. Sometimes people don’t mean to at all. Including us. If we try to avoid making mistakes, we’ll just end up avoiding life. And life goes on, whether you want to follow it or not. Make sure it doesn’t leave you behind.

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Value who you are, not who you aren’t

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How do we measure who we are? Too often than not, we focus too heavily on what we’re not and not enough on what we are. Some of us feel it through the weight of other people’s opinions. Some of us feel it through the burden of our own opinions. We often underestimate our talents and exaggerate our flaws. Why are we so hung up on the negatives? Shift the perspective a little. Stop belittling yourself. You have so much to offer. And so much of you is beautiful, even the imperfect, damaged parts. Be proud of who you are. Appreciate it’s value. And flaunt it.

Too many people overvalue what they are not and undervalue what they are.

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Be flawesome

Flawesome (adjective): an individual who embraces their flaws and knows they’re awesome regardless.

We have a bad habit of letting our flaws be the way we set ourselves apart from each other. You are so much smarter/prettier/more popular than me. She must think I am such a bad role model. Sometimes our tendency to mix our self perception with other people leads to jealousy and hate and other times to insecurity and self-hate. But we shouldn’t be letting our ‘flaws’ infect our relationships with other people and especially not our relationship with ourselves. Because having flaws might set us apart, but it also makes us who we are. And who we are is awesome. Don’t let anyone, including yourself, tell you otherwise. We all have flaws. And if we keep thinking of them as something bad, we’ll never be able to grow, because we’re too caught up in them. We need to learn to accept them and embrace them. You’re awesome regardless of your flaws. You’re flawesome.

More than you see

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In a time when we’re all exposed to one another online, it’s easy to confuse seeing with knowing. But we shouldn’t assume that glimpses of someone physically or virtually will give us a rounded picture of that person. It’s dangerous to do so, because we’re still oblivious to all the shadows of that person. To conclude that someone’s life is perfect is to ignore that everyone is fighting their own battles. To believe that someone’s life is perfect is to compare their highlights to our lowest points. It’s natural for us to forget that we don’t always know someone. But do not place those perceptions on someone. It will burden you both.

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