Don’t give forgiveness because it’s the right thing to do. Rather because it’s the most liberating thing to do. When you forgive someone or yourself, you wash your body of grudges, judgement and hate. Forgive just as much for yourself as for others. Give people the benefit of the doubt. Give people a second chance. Even when that person is you. Nobody is perfect. And so that isn’t something we shouldn’t hold against each other or ourselves. Practice forgiveness and moving on.
If you were to give yourself advice, how different would it be to the advice you’d give a friend in a similar situation? We often tend to be harsher on ourselves, less forgiving and sympathetic, with higher expectations and levels of criticism. We don’t always give ourselves advice, but give ourselves lectures. But we deserve some compassion, love and understanding from ourselves. We’re not perfect. We make mistakes. And that’s ok. If we learn and grow, there’s no unwritten rule saying we should punish ourselves. We have to take care of ourselves. Don’t be so hard on yourself.
We all have weaknesses. We all have flaws. We all have vulnerabilities. And so we should. We should be raw. We should be authentic. We should be imperfect. It’s precisely our imperfections that promise living rather than existing. Imperfections are the place where we grow, where we dream, and where we act. Imperfections are where beauty blossoms, character builds, and life happens. Embrace your imperfections. Let people see your imperfections. Know that your imperfections are what make life perfect.
Broken crayons still colour. Rusty pennies still hold worth. Cake batter is still delicious. Bags with sewn up holes still carry the load. Detours still lead to remarkable places. Lost relationships still live on in memory. Treks up a mountain still promise breathtaking views. Flaws in logic still guide us forward. Things might not be perfect, but that doesn’t mean they’re not extraordinary. Take a look.