Being positive doesn’t mean staying positive. We all have negative moments, moments when we doubt ourselves, when we make mistakes, when someone lets us down, and so on. Being positive is how you bounce back from those moments. It’s about not letting those moments slip into weeks and months and years. It’s about talking to yourself, putting faith in yourself, and loving yourself despite those moments. Life is more than those moments. Once you figure that out, positivity will flow naturally through your veins.
Sometimes, the only effective way to increase our self-confidence is to completely forget about our sense of lacking confidence and to just do those things that make us feel insecure, vulnerable, and timid. Self-confidence is defined as “a feeling of trust in one’s abilities, qualities, and judgement”. How do we expect ourselves to ever develop that trust without experimenting, becoming uncomfortable, making mistakes, falling? Lack of self-confidence grows from not knowing, from fear, from high expectations, so what better way to take that away than to try and demystify the image we’re painting in our heads? Get out there. Don’t listen to the pessimism. Practice, learn and grow. And with that, your self-confidence will flourish too.
We always hear that there are plenty of fish in the sea. And we all know that there will always be people who lift us up and weigh us down. Yet, we still sometimes find ourselves surrounded by those who push us around, step on us, and pick us up whenever it suits them. There are the manipulative, the controlling, the pessimistic. And it infests our lives.
I’m not saying we cut out every person that makes us feel anything other than happy – some people are worth it. But sometimes we need to take courage and dive into that sea. We should find some positive people, ambitious people, passionate people, ones who see opportunity and possibility and not limitations and barricades. We can’t always be the one to be all those things; sometimes we need encouragement from outside ourselves. We need people who push us to be better, who make us laugh, and who are non-judgemental. So let’s take a swim.
When we talk about our glasses being half full or half empty, we immediately think about optimism and pessimism. But does that mean that what we have and what we don’t have defines our perspective of the world? Maybe we shouldn’t only be looking at the contents of our glass. Maybe we should look at the whole picture:
We each have a glass. We each have something in that glass. We still have space to add and we still have something to lose; we have something to strive for and we have something to cherish. Let’s appreciate the beauty and value of what we hold in the palm of our hands. Let’s be grateful that we still have purpose and ambition on the soles of our feet. When we can understand this, that’s when our perspective of the world is truly cemented. That is when optimism springs and continues to grow.