Truth is, no matter what we do, say, think, believe, we cannot please everyone. There will always be someone who won’t like it and won’t be afraid to tell you so. We cannot meet everyone’s expectations. So why don’t we just focus on pleasing the one person who will have to live with you: yourself. You have to live with your actions, your choices, your perspective, so why are we trying so hard to please others when we can so easily please ourselves. Do what makes you happy, what makes you grow, what makes you live. Set your own standards, create your own rules and live your own life. It’s your life, not theirs.
Sometimes we underestimate the fact that we can do whatever we want. We easily start confusing what we want with what other people want, until it morphs into something repressive. We want to please those we love. We want to provide for those we care about. We want approval from our peers. And that’s ok if other people aren’t our sole focus. Because people shouldn’t dictate what we can do and what we can’t do. People shouldn’t confine us with labels and rules. People shouldn’t make us feel small or inferior. They might try. But we don’t have to let them. And really, it’s whatever we want to do that will shine onto the world and make everyone else glow too.
Many of us struggle with the idea of letting others down. Sometimes it’s the people who raised us or the people who we look up to. Sometimes it’s the people who have helped us out or the people who have been kind to us. We do not want to come across as ungrateful, selfish or inconsiderate. We want to make them proud. But we cannot always be guided by what people think or by what would be best for other people. Sometimes, we have to let them down to pursue what’s best for us. And that doesn’t make us a monster. If those people are invested in us, they will move past it and be happy for us. We can’t always please everyone.