As the year draws to a close, we often take a look at the map of the journey we’ve plotted this year. There might be a few patches of uphill struggle. There might be a few circles, and even a few dead ends. Or maybe a lot. Nonetheless, we should be proud of ourselves and how far we’ve come. Because no matter where we are, our map shows that we tried, we conquered, we learnt something. We remained strong and determined. And sometimes we fell apart and it was ok. We should be proud of what we’ve achieved, no matter how small or how trivial, they seem, even if it’s just bring proud that we didn’t give up on ourselves. Because our achievements have made us into who we are today and who we can be tomorrow. Celebrate those moments and use them as your fuel to make yourself proud next year.
Mortality is our only true weakness. In a flash, we could be gone and so could anyone around us. But mortality is also our greatest asset. Think about how much more we’d give, if we realised how precious our time is and how limited our time is. We’d love deeper. We’d forgive those who wronged us more quickly. We’d say the words left unsaid. We’d swallow our pride. We’d be bolder in our pursuits. The clouds that loom over our mind would dissipate, because the answers would become much clearer. Let’s not wait until tomorrow. Today is your day to write as you please. Only put off until tomorrow that you are willing to die having left undone.
“Vanity and pride are different things, though the words are often used synonymously. A person may be proud without being vain. Pride relates more to our opinion of ourselves, vanity to what we would have others think of us.” Pride and Prejudice, Jane Austen
One of my biggest weaknesses is not giving myself enough credit. When someone compliments me, I automatically try to find a flaw in their argument, whether in my head or out loud. If someone commented on my good grades, I would say that everybody in the class got good grades and that mine were nothing special. If someone congratulated me on getting far in a job application progress, I would think to myself that maybe there weren’t enough good applications in that round and my name had to be put forward to make up numbers. I still do this and I’m sure others do. Why do we devalue ourselves and put ourselves down? Are we proud of ourselves, if not openly then at least internally? I think being able to be proud of your achievements, however small, is the key to future success and happiness. I think some people are scared of pride. Pride is usually paired with arrogance, but pride can also equate with confidence. It’s a fine line, but when someone else brings up your own success, I think it’s ok to be proud, because that’s confidence not arrogance. Arrogance would be bringing it up yourself. And arrogance isn’t always a bad thing, not in small doses. Being proud of yourself will allow you to see success in other adventures, to accept opportunities that will challenge and teach you, and to find satisfaction in your accomplishments. You have made those accomplishments after all, don’t let anyone take that away from you, especially not yourself.