Five questions we should ask ourselves everyday
- What do I want to accomplish today? (Did I accomplish what I wanted to?) – Starting each day with intention, however small, sparks our desire to have a good day. Everything worth having will require work, so taking a few steps everyday towards our dreams or goals will make all the difference.
- What would make today great? (What made today great?) – Starting each day with a positive mind injects positivity into everything we touch, whether that be other people or what we do. Consciously thinking about what would make us happy pushes us to find those things that make us happy. At the end of the day, we might find something completely unexpected made our day great. And that’s because a positive mind invites good vibes, which invites good things.
- What am I grateful for today? – Starting each day with a full heart reminds us of how lucky we are, especially during times when we feel like everything is against us. Gratitude brings perspective to what really matters.
- Have I expressed my love to my family and friends? – It’s simple: a day shouldn’t go by without expressing our love to our loved ones. Even just a phone call or an ‘I love you’ will suffice. Too often, we take love for granted. But really, it’s the only thing that counts.
- What would make tomorrow better? (What did I learn today?) – We’re not perfect, and that’s ok. Sometimes we make mistakes. Whether we had a great day or a bad day, there’s always something we can take with us from today in our efforts to be better tomorrow.
It’s easy to complain. Problems and flaws are embedded in all of us and across all corners of the world. But with every problem, we subconsciously call for a solution. Where the real problem lies is in our inability to put the two together. There is no winning if we identify a problem but dismiss the possibility of a solution. That’s how it’s always been. I’m not good enough. We need to start asking questions and trying to find answers. If there’s a change we wish to see, we are the only ones who can bring it to life from the drawing board. Face the world with positivity and open-mindedness. It all begins with asking, ‘Why not?’
Real motivation begins when we plainly, resolutely and sometimes brutally weigh up our priorities, desires and perspectives. Motivation is about weighing up how badly we want our goal with how badly we’ll work for it. Motivation is about weighing up how much we will believe in ourselves despite how much others will doubt us. Motivation is about weighing up how many times we are willing to get up after failure knocks us down. Motivation is about weighing up how many tough days we’ll go through for those cherished moments. It isn’t enough to dream without any action, if we want to see success. We need to ask ourselves: How bad do we want it? Everything will fall exactly where we guide it.
Words like ‘stupid’, ‘dumb’ and ‘simple’ should be expressed sparingly, especially when used to describe people and their actions. We don’t all see the world the same way and we haven’t all experienced the world in the same way, so naturally we all have different perspectives and different pieces of knowledge. I have found recently, from friendship circles to professional environments, that people often laugh or sneer at others who ask questions. It can become daunting and intimidating to ask a question again for fear of humiliation in front of others or for fear of a lowering of respect from peers.
But be courageous and ask the question anyway. Asking questions reveals interest, curiosity and enthusiasm, and uncovers a desire to understand and know more; we should never ridicule others for asking questions or feel nervous about asking a question, no matter how stupid we think it might sound. Asking questions means we’re learning, learning to see different perspectives and piece information together, and that is such an important element to grasp in life. If the other person is too close-minded to see that, then their opinion is not worth your time. People who ask questions are the ones who will get the most answers in more ways than one.
Everything happens for a reason. We’ve all heard that phrase before and maybe we even tell it to ourselves. But Shakespeare also wrote in his play Julius Caesar: “The fault, dear Brutus, is not in our stars, but in ourselves”. We often believe in fate when things aren’t going according to plan or things are ‘wrong’. And in most cases its completely true that things will always turn out alright in the end and we thank Fate for intervening. But there is also a danger with thinking that everything passes through Fate’s hands, depending on what type of person you are. The danger is that we become complacent. If everything is down to fate, what agency do we really have and what can we really change? I like to think that everything does happen for a reason and that maybe there are multiple fates. Believing in fate does not mean I’m going to stop acting, stop believing, stop fighting, stop trying. Fate is almost a blessing and an obstacle at the same time, which can be hard to navigate. I think ‘Fate’ is something that can change depending on how we deal with it when it arises, the good and the bad. If we are complacent, fate might not be forgiving; if we try, fate may be rewarding. Maybe fate is a concept that is more about testing rather than about affirming. Maybe we create our own fate and maybe Fate helps us along.