Take control of the hand you are dealt. Take responsibility for the life at your feet. Take the opportunities right in front of you. Life isn’t perfect, but that doesn’t mean it won’t be good. A door closes so another one can open. If we take control of our lives, take responsibility and take opportunity, our life has a kaleidoscope full of possibilities instead of the inevitability you settle for. Don’t give up on it. Take it. The only one who can change your life is you.
What does it mean to grow up? Growing up is often muddied with seriousness and responsibility, and we interpret it as being tied down. But whilst we should keep our inner child within, growing up and taking responsibility for yourself is empowering, fulfilling and liberating. Because the best part of growing up is defining who we’re going to be, owning it and running with it. It takes courage, and that’s why so many of us suck at it. But it will be so worth it. Growing up isn’t something to shrink away from or fight against, it’s something to embody and embrace.
As much as we’re affected, moulded, and influenced by those around us, we also have the same effect on others. So we all have a responsibility to do so positively and unconditionally. The smallest of words or actions can boost someone’s self-love or pick up someone’s mood. We can encourage someone to pursue their aspiration or inspire someone to aim higher. We can empower others to take control of their lives by relinquishing ours over them. Be an example. Be a catalyst. And bring out the best in others. They might be the leader, innovator, and partner of tomorrow.
It is both daunting and liberating to think that the world does not owe us anything, yet it lies generously at our feet. We hold the possibilities, the choices and the potential, as long as we’re open to taking them and exploring them. We will discover that everything worth having never comes easily, but it is our responsibility to inspire ourselves and to work hard for what we want. We will find ourselves in unexpected, uncomfortable or unappealing situations, but it is our responsibility to adapt to them or change them. We will be thrown boulders and stopped at barriers, but it is our responsibility to transcend the limitations and boundaries and to reach heights we didn’t think we could. Ultimately, we need to realise that the beauty of life stems from that very responsibility. We can paint our life in any colour and any style we desire.
When we know that someone is counting on us, we are always more motivated; we do not want to disappoint others or let them down. Therefore, accountability is one of our greatest motivators. If we cannot stay motivated after hours, in the library, or in the gym, for example, having someone to share the experience with not only keeps us accountable for our actions, but they also help release some of the dullness or struggle out of the exercise, which motivates us further. Some of us enjoy being accountable by publicly declaring our goals, by documenting our successes and trials, and by imagining oneself as a role model. Perhaps you have a younger sibling or a child who you want to inspire to lead a fulfilling life, or maybe you would like to create an online community that encourages and thrives off each other. All are examples of accountability.
Perhaps this is a journey that you want to do alone; it isn’t any less difficult. But individually, we are all still accountable – to ourselves. We are the only ones who can give ourselves what we want and what we deserve. Our life is in our hands. Nobody can take the blame or fault for what we do not do for ourselves. Let the fate that you hold guide you and motivate you. Go after what you want and don’t give up on yourself. Be accountable and stay accountable, and you will triumph.