Life is an experiment. People might tell you they’ve got it all figured out. People might tell you they have the recipe to success. People might tell you the rules to follow. But we’re all just making our way through life as blindly as each other. It won’t be the same for anyone. But as daunting as it sounds, that’s a beautiful opportunity. We can make our life whatever we want it to be.
Break rules. Leave the world more interesting for you being here ~ Neil Gaiman
Quote of the day.
Truth is, no matter what we do, say, think, believe, we cannot please everyone. There will always be someone who won’t like it and won’t be afraid to tell you so. We cannot meet everyone’s expectations. So why don’t we just focus on pleasing the one person who will have to live with you: yourself. You have to live with your actions, your choices, your perspective, so why are we trying so hard to please others when we can so easily please ourselves. Do what makes you happy, what makes you grow, what makes you live. Set your own standards, create your own rules and live your own life. It’s your life, not theirs.
There’s no roadmap. There’s no elevator. There’s no manual. But there’s a journey. And you’re in the driver’s seat. You determine what you do and where you’ll go. You only know what you know but that will serve you well. It’s not going to be easy, but it’s going to be worth it – and most importantly it’s going to be yours. Keep your eyes ahead and your foot on the accelerator.
Sometimes it’s better to ask for forgiveness, than to ask for permission. Sometimes it’s better to make a mistake, than to not try at all. Sometimes it’s better to put yourself first, than live by someone else’s rules. Live passionately, not cautiously.
If we want to achieve and succeed, we should stop looking around for someone else to give us the instructions, the expectations and the answers. Sure, there are useful tips and tricks that we can learn from others; we can ask questions, seek advice, observe them. But we shouldn’t be trying to be a replica of them, because all we’ll end up becoming is a shadow. We have our own gifts to offer and talents to share. We can create our own rules, build our own set of expectations, and find our own answers to our own problems. We don’t need to follow in someone else’s path. We don’t need to compare our journey to anyone else’s. We don’t need to do what everyone else is doing.
There’s so much noise in our heads about who we should be, most of it being others’ expectations and norms. But we can’t live life by someone else’s rules and we shouldn’t have to fit in someone else’s box. It can be hard to sift through all the noise, but somewhere buried deep you’ll find your own voice, your own thoughts and your own feelings. Take a moment and ask yourself: When are you at your best? When are you the happiest? When do you feel most comfortable? Who are you when no one is watching? Who are you when you don’t give a damn? What do you love about yourself? What would you like to be better at? There are no right way to be. But there is a right way to be you, and that’s just to be yourself, whoever that is. Be aware of it and let it vibrate through you. There’s no other way to be.
We often mistakenly associate acts of courage with great leaders and heroes. We often forget that courage lies within each of us. Courage doesn’t need to be on a large scale. We don’t have to put our life in the balance to be courageous. And we don’t need to be strong all the time to be courageous. No, courage can simply be admitting how you feel. Courage can be refusing to live by other people’s rules. Courage can be letting go or holding on. Courage can be choosing not to give up. Courage can be realising that you are your own hero. And that courage within will most likely nurture someone else’s courage too. Don’t be afraid of yourself, who you are and how you feel. Own it.
It’s ok to live life out of sequence. It’s ok to live life back to front. It’s ok to live life off beat. There are no rules, no expectations, no destinies, except the ones we impose on ourselves. Live the life you want to live, regardless of the labels others try to place on you. To live life to the fullest, we sometimes have to take a leap of faith or take a second chance. And that might seem strange to others, but it doesn’t matter, as long as it feels right to you. Don’t let the misleading idea of ‘normality’ stop you from being who you want to be and doing what you love. It’s ok to live a life others don’t understand.
Be unapologetically you. We all have so much to give, and that gift is beyond rules, regulations and labels. Our thoughts, beliefs and attitude define who we are. Our actions, our gestures, and our quirks define who we are. Our passion, our words and our lifestyles define who we are. We define who we are. We might never be fully satisfied with who we are, but there’s no need to hide ourselves away. There’s plenty of space for everyone to express themselves. Being unapologetically you is the best thing you can do.