The most satisfying things, the most treasured things, the most earned things in life are those we worked for, sometimes sacrificed for, those we fought for. There’s no value in something that was handed to us. There’s no glory in something we took a shortcut to. The best things in life make you sweaty, with exhilaration, hard work, passion, and perseverance. Don’t be afraid to get your hands dirty. It will be worth it.
It’s exhausting constantly trying to fit in. It’s exhausting because there is no one-size-fits-all, yet we pretend there is. But think ahead to your later years, when you’re looking back at what you’ve done. Do you really want to look back on yourself trying to be someone else, whether succeeding or not? We all have our own passions and dreams, our own perspectives and opinions. They don’t have to fit in to be successful or satisfying. No, they don’t have to fit in, but you have to have the courage to breathe life into them. You’re going to have to live with yourself every second of every day. Why not make those seconds your seconds? Because in the end, whatever you do with them, they’ll be known as your seconds. Don’t waste them masquerading as someone else.
Meet each day with energy. It’s easy to slip into carrying the baggage of the past, but all it really does is weigh us down – and that slows us down. Hold onto the essentials and store the rest away. Meet each day a little lighter. Waking up with positivity, determination and enthusiasm pulsing through your veins will let possibilities and opportunities course through your life. And ultimately, leave you satisfied when you later come to rest your head.
We create our own world. Our world is a representation of our experiences, encounters, perceptions, thoughts and feelings. We create our perspectives of good and bad. And with that, we create our senses of happiness and satisfaction and despair and sadness. We attach an emotion to an experience. But happiness shouldn’t be something we only find in particular experiences, because the world is sometimes uncontrollable and unfair. Happiness is something we create within – an emotion we foster due to and in spite of our experiences. We shouldn’t rely on the external world to create our happiness. It’s more about our perspective. We create happiness on the inside. Let the happiness shine from within and create a new world.
On our journey, we pick up a lot of baggage. Sometimes it can get too much to carry. Sometimes we’ve just got to leave some of it behind. So here are three things that we should learn to let go of as soon as possible:
1. Perfection –
Whether we want the perfect life, the perfect partner, the perfect body or whether we project the expectation of perfection onto every piece of work we do, we are destined to be disappointed. Of course it’s beautiful to dream, to have prospects, to strive further, but we have to understand that we’re human and that life is unexpected. Perfection isn’t an option in most cases. If we keep pretending it is, we won’t ever feel satisfied with ourselves or the world. And that would be a real shame.
2. Approval –
The contradictory truth is that we are always influenced by the people around us and we want others to like us but it is virtually impossible to please everyone whilst also pleasing ourselves. It’s cliche, but we only have one life to live. If we want to do something, we should do it, regardless of anyone’s opinion. Approval should be an added bonus rather than a requirement. Better yet, instead of seeking approval, seek people who are supportive, non-judgemental and love you for who you are.
3. Excuses –
It’s so easy to put off, to procrastinate, to laze around and to make excuses about why we can’t do something or why we shouldn’t do something. But excuses won’t get us anywhere, not with our relationships and not with our goals. We need to be moving forward, how ever slowly. Act on that instinct, that inspiration, that idea. Don’t wait around, because whilst we’re sitting around, time is still flying by. And we won’t be able to catch up.
What do you think we should let go of? What are you learning to let go of? Please leave them in the comments below!
The now is something we are told we should pay attention to, but since it’s so blindingly obvious, we just ignore it. But the present works in our favour. The present is a blessing. So here are three reasons why the present is awesome and why we need to re-route our attention:
- Taking one step at a time – The future can be daunting. Goals can be intimidating. Processes take time, and that can be terrifying. So let’s just focus on this moment now. Let’s focus on this step, this stage, this hurdle, this challenge, and worry about the others later. Life’s so much more digestible, satisfying and relaxing this way.
- Looking at where we are instead of where we’re going – It’s easy to get caught up in planning and projecting and doubting and working. It’s so exhausting that we leave no time to enjoy or appreciate what is right in front of us. Overtime, we develop a twisted mindset where nothing is sufficient and we become dependent on the hypothetical. Let’s take a look around us. We might be pleasantly surprised by what we find.
- Only now is guaranteed – We hear it all the time, but does it really sink in? We don’t know what tomorrow holds. There might be unexpected situations or undesirable circumstances. We shouldn’t take our life for granted. Let’s not leave words unsaid or work unfinished or problems unsolved. Let’s not leave our dreams for tomorrow or put off our passions for another day. What is it that we’re waiting for? Because our chance may never come again. This moment is the only moment for living.
At times, it can be overwhelming, exhausting, frustrating and painful, to work tirelessly for an uncertain ending. We cannot guarantee that our hard work will be rewarded with prosperity. But that doesn’t mean that we shouldn’t try or that we should cut corners. The sweetest accomplishments are cultivated through time and effort. We might be honoured with our desired outcome. We might equally be honoured with a lesson born out of failure, which in turn leads us another step closer to our desired outcome. What we create for instant satisfaction will quickly fade, because we’re not invested in the same way, and it isn’t as stable or perpetuating. So don’t be afraid to take time and to put in the effort. It will all come to something greater.
One thing at a time, all things in succession. That which grows fast withers as rapidly; and that which grows slow endures. – Josiah Gilbert Holland