If it ever feels like too much, take a breath. Take a moment for yourself. Nothing is worth burning out, or working yourself into the ground, or living in a constant state of anxiety. Being overworked isn’t an accomplishment. Taking care of ourselves is too underrated. But it’s also imperative. Find the right balance. We don’t need to be superhuman to have superpowers.
Every life has its hardships, no matter we do. We can try to play it safe, we can take the same road as many before us, we can try to please our loved ones, but these lives have their hardships too. We all get stressed, angry, lonely, lost, sad. So why wouldn’t we just do what we love? What makes the hard times bearable is having purpose. And purpose grows from doing what makes us happy and aspiring to accomplish something that will bring us great joy. Everything in between is worth it, the good and the bad. Go out there and find your purpose. Don’t be afraid of it and don’t try to borrow someone else’s. He who has a why to live for can bear almost any how.
Sometimes our mind is clouded by misery and we just can’t seem to shake it. It’s like we’re magnetised to the feeling and it keeps dragging us closer and closer to it, and we can’t seem to stop it. It’s going to be ok. It’s going to be more than ok. It’s going to get better. Whatever the stress, the anxiety, the sadness, the hurt, the anger, you will get through it one way or another. You just can’t give into the pull that keeps dragging you down. You have to try to escape its grasp. Because you will escape it, as long as you keep trying. It’s going to be ok. It’s going to be more than ok. It’s going to get better.
Wherever you are, be all there. With loved ones, family and friends, be all there. In moments of solitude, be all there. In times of dreaming, brainstorming, planning and trying, be all there. Relaxing and unwinding, be all there. In moments of great sadness and stress or celebration and joyfulness, be all there. It’s only when we’re fully present that we fully connect with our emotions and surroundings – and understand how they interlink. Wherever you are, open your eyes and be all there.
Stars are formed in a cloud of dust. The cloud of gas and dust collapses under it’s own gravitational attraction. And a protostar is born, made up of some of the gas and dust it’s gathered in the process. What does this have to do with you? Well, you never know what might happen tomorrow. If you think your world is ending or you feel your world is unclear, remember you never know what might happen tomorrow. All the trouble and turmoil is building you into a star. A beautiful, bright star. Have faith. And don’t give up too easily. Your world isn’t ending, it’s just beginning.
The holiday season can sometimes be stressful. We want to have a magical time with our loved ones, and that can put a lot of pressure on ourselves to make it happen for everyone. To make it a little less stressful, we sometimes have to alter our perspective. Our expectations won’t always match our reality, and that’s ok. Sometimes the most memorable times are the spontaneous ones. Sometimes the most memorable times are the quietest ones. But most of all, the most memorable times depend on who we’re with. At the end of the day, it doesn’t matter what we do, but who we share this time with. It’s the ones we’re with who will ultimately make it magical. Let’s not stress about the holiday time. Let it happen naturally.
Sometimes we have to push ourselves. And sometimes we have to pay the price. Stress isn’t all bad; it can spark our mind and body into action in response to a problem or situation. But high levels of stress can have the opposite effect, causing our mind and body to shut down in isolation, fear, lethargy, anger, and depression. Stress shouldn’t ever be a positive indicator to demonstrate how hard we’re working. Stress shouldn’t ever become a shadow that haunts us. It’s much more valuable to look after ourselves. It’s ok to take a breath to sit, to think, to re-prioritise, to re-energise. We’re designed to need a rest. It’s ok to admit that we cannot do everything. We cannot place these pressures on ourselves. It doesn’t make us weak or incapable. Stress will make us weak and incapable in the long term. Don’t let it break you.
If we tallied it all up, we’d most likely find that we spend a lot of time worrying – about things in our control, things out of our control, and even things we can’t yet place in either of those categories. For the things in our control, we should take comfort in the fact that we are in charge and that we are capable enough to handle them. For the things out of our control, we should accept our limitations and learn to adapt. For all the angst we build up about the future and the unknown, let it go. If what we worry about materialises, take action. Take each day as it comes and revel in the blessings, possibilities and opportunities that each day holds. Don’t waste those treasures on what might not even be. Worry won’t save us, only rob us.
When life is made up of moments, why are so many of us wasting them? Here’s a few ideas. It’s not going to be easy to crack these, but we can at least be conscious of what we’re letting consume our minds and distract us from the moments we have:
- Procrastination – One of our biggest mistakes is failing to act when the light bulb turns on. Acting on inspiration, intuition and ideas means we own the moment! Don’t wait around for tomorrow. Let’s face it, we’re no more likely to act tomorrow, we’re only more likely to lose our momentum. And then that moment will be gone.
- Worry – When we have a problem, we naturally panic. And we let that panic eat at us, because we can’t think about anything else but the problem. But if we worry too much, we not only lose sight of the solution, but we also lose the moment. Deal with the issue head on – and if that time has to wait, put the issue out of your mind until you can start. Enjoy your moments stress free.
- Fear – Many of us try to mask our fears, but the truth is they govern so many of the roads we follow and the chances we take. And sometimes we’re so comfortable with our fears that we don’t even realise it’s happening. But always go after what you want and what you deserve. Give it a go. Because fear is just a wall in the mind and walls can be torn down with a bit of a push.
- Expectations – Sometimes, we have super high expectations of a person, an event, or a place. But in such an unexpected world, chances are we could be disappointed. Instead of having low expectations or no expectations at all, try to be open-minded and positive. That way the moment won’t be ruined if it takes an sudden turn.