Our life isn’t always as bad as it seems inside our heads. Our opinions and emotions are nurtured by what we know and what we’ve seen. But if you were to look from the outside, what might you see? Would it be a bad life like the one we’ve conjured up in our heads? Or would it be a life to be grateful for? There are others looking in who envy your life, who are wishing for a life like yours, who are perhaps even fighting for it. Take a step back and let’s quit making it out to be so bad. Because it really isn’t. It could be worse. And there’s a lot going for you, for many of us.
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We’ve all won the lottery, even if we don’t have the check to prove it. There are people who are fighting for freedoms, starving for food, searching for steady jobs, shrinking in fear from hate, shivering in the cold. We take our education and our jobs for granted, the food in our mouths and the roofs over our heads for granted, the love that surrounds us for granted. Take a look around at how much there is to be grateful for and how much the world has offered us. Appreciate those gifts and reap as much as you can from them, instead of wasting them and wishing for something else. We don’t need lots of money to be rich.
There’s someone out in the world who dreams of a life like yours, a job like yours, a relationship like yours, a place to live like yours. There’s someone out in the world who dreams of less than what you have, to be happy and comfortable. Look around. Do you appreciate the things you have, the connections you have and the opportunities you have? Do you make the most of them? Or do you take them for granted or let them slip by? Do you always focus on the next big thing or what you don’t have? There’s so much we need to be more grateful for. Because someone out there is fighting for those things.
Sometimes life can feel like a game of pluses and minuses. If something good happens and then something bad happens, they cancel each other out. But if we climb a bit higher and look out the window, we might see a completely different view: that no matter what has happened or what will happen, no matter what we have or don’t have, there is so much to be thankful for. And if we can teach ourselves to always look at our life through that lens, we’ll realise that life might be a game of pluses and minuses, but the pluses always win.
Positivity isn’t about ignoring the worse parts of life nor is it about suppressing our negative emotions. Because we cannot avoid them. It’s rather about refusing to let those moments drain the colour out of life. Let’s have faith that things will turn out alright.
Gratitude might sometimes be in short supply. It’s natural to look at what we don’t have, reminisce about how things were or wonder about how things could be. But there’s a lot to be grateful for right on our doorstep. Let’s not take those for granted.
Self-confidence is something we’re always working on. Think about how many different choices we might make if we actually believed in ourselves, our worth and our beauty. Think about what we would attempt if we knew we wouldn’t fail. Let’s live confidently and be richer for it.