Tip One: Look inside
Sometimes we feel lost and look for guidance elsewhere. But ultimately, you’ll know what you want to do and who you want to be. And sometimes you’ll know how you want to get there. Sometimes we get distracted by other people’s plans for us and other people’s opinions about how our lives should be, often sold to us as their wisdom. But you should follow your own heart and instincts. And if you mess up, that’s ok – at least you’re being yourself and being true to who you are.
Tip Two: Stop comparing yourself to others
By all means, get inspiration from others and have role models to look up to. But remember that nobody’s path will be the same as yours and you’ll never be able to follow the footsteps of someone else. Comparing yourself with others will only highlight the flaws and gaps, that aren’t actually a bad thing. Forge your own path, take the road less travelled and focus on bettering yourself instead.
Tip Three: Take one step at a time
There may be loads of things you want to work on. Or maybe there’s just a couple. But you won’t change everything over night. Take your time and plan your time. Be realistic. Focus on one thing at a time and create a plan for it. Build a habit for one thing before incorporating something else. Don’t overwhelm yourself with lifestyle changes and restrictions and so on, because all it will do is push you back into the arms of your old self.
- Listening to someone’s worries and problems can be really therapeutic to the other person, as it lets them open up and release their anxieties.
- Check in with people who you know have been going through a rough time or who have been feeling lost, so they know they have a support system behind them.
- Say thank you to your parents, friends, colleagues, bus driver, barista, random strangers, anyone who helps you.
- Smiling goes a long way, for both ourselves and others. It can turn someone’s day around, make them feel more at ease, and pick them up.
- Complimenting someone instead of gossiping about someone not only boosts their self esteem, but it brings into focus the good rather than the bad.
- Open the door for someone, give up your seat for someone; they’re simple and effortless, but meaningful.
- Buy the meal for the stranger sitting in the same restaurant as you. Just think how their face will light up when they’re told they have nothing to pay on the bill!
- Buy a hot drink or hot food for the homeless person you pass by on your way somewhere. Everyone needs it, no matter what their story.
- Offer a service, whether it be babysitting the neighbour’s children, walking someone’s dog, reading to the elderly, tutoring a school kid, and so on.
- Donate the clothes, the furniture, the knick-knacks you don’t need anymore to your local charity shop. Or donate money to a cause you’re passionate about.
- Leave it a little surprise for someone, like some change in the laundromat or a note on the bathroom mirror. Paid for parking longer than expected? Give your ticket to someone just pulling into the car park.
- Bake some snacks (or just bring some snacks) into the office or for a group you attend.
- Support local businesses or start-ups in your area. We all have a dream and should support each other!
- Volunteer. It doesn’t matter what you do, just get out there and do it!
What would you add to this list?
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There are seven days in a week, each full of potential. Someday isn’t one of them, no matter how many times we tell ourselves it is. Most things scheduled for someday end up lost. Make time for what you want. Excuse your excuses. Take the first step. Get out there and just do it. Life’s too short to wait for someday. It won’t be coming round anytime soon.
We waste too much time worrying over little things and crying about trivial things. And we lose out on time we could be spending enjoying life because of it. Something might seem like the end of the world today but we probably won’t even remember it later on. If you find yourself feeling down about something that won’t matter in five years, don’t spend more than five minutes being sad about it. Something better is round the corner.
“No matter how old we are, age is just a number, it’s never too late to love, to reach out or care for each other, to forgive a brother, or to find a lover. Life is a mystery waiting to be discovered.”
Make your time count.
Time is both a friend and a foe, a luxury and a curse. It has a way of healing us and stealing from us. It gives us the opportunity to reflect, move on and grow. But it’s always ticking away. It becomes easy to regret; there’s no way of escaping time, no way of being able to do everything. All we can do is our best, do what we love and love what we do. Seems simple, but many of us make it complicated. We shouldn’t be afraid to mess up or change our minds. We shouldn’t keep wondering about the what ifs and should have beens. We shouldn’t be listening to what others think we should do or tell us to do. Time is a valuable currency, and we all have some. Use it in the way you want to. Make time your friend.