Sometimes the most important person to congratulate you, to celebrate you, to thank you is yourself. Sometimes we’ll be the only person who will. And that isn’t because our achievement isn’t worth recognising – it’s just how the world works sometimes. So give yourself a high five. Give yourself a pat on the back. Treat yourself and thank yourself. You’ve done something amazing, however small, and you deserve to acknowledge it. Those small achievements will all sit in our back pocket, and serve as encouragement for our next feat.
How to judge someone’s character: Look at how they treat those who can’t give them anything. Look at how they treat those they don’t need or want anything from. Look at how they treat those in need of something. Do they treat them as equals? With respect and kindness? Do they help those who need it without expecting anything in the return? Or are they only interested in those who offer them something? The answers to these questions say a lot about a person.
You deserve to be treated with kindness and compassion. You deserve to be treated with respect and dignity. You deserve to be told the truth. You deserve to be cared for and attended to, but you also deserve your freedom and independence. You deserve to be appreciated and loved. You deserve to be who you are. Don’t let others treat you differently. Everyone deserves a second chance, but those who manipulate you, abuse you, ignore you, judge you or try to change you are not worth your time, your care, your love or your tears. Don’t waste it on them, but give your gift of kindness to someone who reciprocates.
Relationships and friendships aren’t always ships that sail smoothly. Sometimes we’re taken for granted. Sometimes we’re treated poorly. Sometimes we’re barred from being ourselves. Sometimes people pour their negativity onto us. Done consistently, it can take a toll on us. It drains our happiness, shreds our confidence and strips away our positivity and faith in the world. Sometimes we have to let those people go. Because we deserve better. We deserve people who give as much as they take. We deserve people who appreciate us in both their good and bad times and who are there for us in our good and bad times. Sometimes we have to let people go in order to welcome others.