We’re all afraid of the unknown. It’s our natural instinct – our body and our mind are trained to keep us safe, and therefore comfortable, so we cower away from what we don’t know. But imagine a life where we always know what’s coming next. Imagine a life where we can’t change the path we are on. Isn’t that more scary, a life without curiosity, surprise, excitement? Sure it’s daunting and life can be cruel and painful. But even those times make us stronger. The unknown gives life character. Let’s embrace and see where it takes us.
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Don’t worry if you don’t have it all figured out. Life rarely follows the plans we make anyway. So instead, find greatness in the unexpected, find beauty in the journey, and find strength in the challenges. Live in the moment and live for the moment. The trek up the mountainside only brightens the view at the top of the mountain.
Surprises can spark a whole array of different emotions. Sometimes we find pleasure and love hidden in a surprise. Sometimes we’re speechless, shocked and dazed. Sometimes surprises leave us frustrated, frightened or upset. But surprises always keep us on our toes. Life would be insufferable and dull if we always knew what was going to happen. With surprises, we can’t become complacent. Whether we grab spontaneity by the hand or we stumble into an unexpected and perhaps undesirable situation, we can always embrace what is thrown at us. Surprises are blessings that life bestows on us. Surprises are life’s way of saying that life is meant to be lived.
We can all get heated in the moment. We can easily spit out words in anger, hate, tiredness or sadness. Sometimes it’s the only way to get the point across. But life is so unexpected. We all know it, yet we tell ourselves that bad things won’t happen to us. We’ll just say sorry tomorrow. Or we just won’t speak to them until they apologise. But something might happen. Don’t forget the bigger picture. Remember to say words of kindness, forgiveness, and love to those you care about. Tell the people you truly care about that you love them. Don’t let your last words with them be of anger or hate. Because tomorrow, you might not be able to take it back.
Life is anything but certain. A sudden gust of wind can blow us off course. An unexpected drought can leave us drained and depleted. It’s almost as if, because of this, we begin to build a wall around our life. We begin to travel the path that has been travelled many times before, in hope that it will bring stability. We begin to listen to the people who tell us what to do and where to go, in hope that they know best. We place our own dreams, aspirations and passions into a dusty box at the top of our bookshelf, because they’re too risky, too impossible and too unsustainable. But if no life is without change and no life without hardship, then why do we settle? What is to say that one life will be more stable, safe and possible than another? The best way to control our futures is to actually take it and to love it. When we love our life, we put more into it and we get more out of it. Our life lies at the soles of our feet and the tips of our fingers. The best way to predict the future is to invent it – and that can be in any way you like.
It seems like most unfortunate things happen at the worst of times: our cars break down when we’re miles away from home, we spill something on our clothes when we’re on our way somewhere, or we forget an important document before a big meeting. Some situations take more time and effort to rectify. It is easy to get infuriated, especially when there is an element of worry involved about how to fix the situation. But in the midst of our panic about fixing the situation, our frustration and worry drain us of our energy to actually solve the problem. They ignite a flame of negativity that consumes everything and is hard to blow out. Our brains become too wired for any type of action. It’s natural. But we have to realise that we can’t always choose the situations that happen to us, and although it seems like the biggest problem in the world, is it really in the grand scheme of things? Since we’re already in the situation, how is frustration, anger or panic really going to help us? All it does is draw time away from the problem, because we focus too highly on the irrelevant details or the worst eventualities. We need to take a deep breath, stay calm and try to focus on what is in front of us. Get the facts, get our bearings, and make a plan. Try to laugh at the situation a bit and relieve the pressure that’s been building up. Life happens but we happen to be in control of how we let it affect us.