We’re all afraid of the unknown. It’s our natural instinct – our body and our mind are trained to keep us safe, and therefore comfortable, so we cower away from what we don’t know. But imagine a life where we always know what’s coming next. Imagine a life where we can’t change the path we are on. Isn’t that more scary, a life without curiosity, surprise, excitement? Sure it’s daunting and life can be cruel and painful. But even those times make us stronger. The unknown gives life character. Let’s embrace and see where it takes us.
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Hold onto who you are. Hold onto your dignity, compassion and enthusiasm. Hold onto your patience, tolerance and forgiveness. Hold onto those who inspire and energise you, who laugh and cry with you. Hold onto love, the love others give you and your capacity to love endlessly. Hold onto the beautiful memories of times past. Hold onto hope for the future and for the unknown. Hold onto today. Hold on tight to the good things in life. Be careful they don’t slip through the cracks or shatter on the floor. Not all great things happen twice.
We’re often anxious about uncertainty. We’d like to colourfully visualise and meticulously plan and effortlessly see our ideas come alive. But we also see how quickly plans can burn or wash away that we’re too frightened to even create them. But we should also see the beauty of uncertainty. Because uncertainty brings possibility. When life is uncertain, anything is possible – including the monumental, the miraculous, the magnificent. Anything is possible. And it’s all in our own hands. Conceive it, believe it, achieve it and live it.
If we tallied it all up, we’d most likely find that we spend a lot of time worrying – about things in our control, things out of our control, and even things we can’t yet place in either of those categories. For the things in our control, we should take comfort in the fact that we are in charge and that we are capable enough to handle them. For the things out of our control, we should accept our limitations and learn to adapt. For all the angst we build up about the future and the unknown, let it go. If what we worry about materialises, take action. Take each day as it comes and revel in the blessings, possibilities and opportunities that each day holds. Don’t waste those treasures on what might not even be. Worry won’t save us, only rob us.
We are all capable of change. We are all able to move on, move past, and move forward. We are all able to let go of the darkness. We are all able to heal ourselves with love. We are all able to fly even if we’ve forgotten how to. We are all able to find energy within to keep pushing on. We are all able to take what we deserve. We are all able to be courageous enough to plunge into uncharted waters. We are all the warriors and heroes of our own lives. Don’t wait around for somebody else to take your place. Choose to be them.
Who doesn’t worry too much? We’re all heavily invested in our lives, whether we want to be or not. So naturally, we worry – about everything. But here are three reasons why we shouldn’t be investing time in worrying:
- Worrying serves no useful purpose – It’s a coping mechanism for anticipation, fear and the unknown. But worrying doesn’t clear ourselves of these emotions, it just validates their control over us. Worry deprives us of pleasure, ease and focus on today, because it’s consuming and exhausting. What’s the point? Stop worrying about things that haven’t happened and concentrate on both the blessings and the problems at hand.
- We always expect the worst – To cope with feeling vulnerable and uncomfortable about not knowing where we stand, we take it upon ourselves to try and fill in the gaps. But we often expect the worst of ourselves and of life’s attitude towards us. Although we shouldn’t sail through life expecting diamonds and gold, there’s no point in wasting time and energy worrying about something that never materialises in reality.
- Everything’s going to be ok – If the worst eventuality does roll around, don’t be disheartened. Every cloud has it’s silver lining. And you have the strength to find it and seize it. Save up that energy you spend on worrying for the day you’re going to need a little extra in your pocket. You’ll thank yourself later.
We cannot always choose the cards we are dealt, the struggles we are thrown, or the tidings we are blessed with. The unknown is terrifying, so much so that we sometimes hide from it. But the unknown is also beautiful. To not know which views we’ll see, which places we’ll land, which people we’ll meet is what makes our life magical. To not know makes lessons powerful, risks thrilling, and success satisfying. Step outside and welcome it.