Nobody who has braved and fought a battle comes away unscarred, even those who are victorious and especially those who have fallen. But our scars are not a mark of shame but a mark of strength, whether victorious or fallen. They symbolise the strength we have within and the strength we have to come. We heal from our wounds as long as we don’t keep reopening them. Keep your scars as a reminder, not a burden.
We might sometimes find ourselves alone. But that doesn’t mean we have to be lonely. Sometimes we have to be our own biggest cheerleader:
- Celebrate your victories – we don’t always give ourselves enough credit when it comes to our achievements, sometimes because we don’t think they’re good enough and other times because we’re too busy thinking about the next big thing. But don’t get into the habit of letting success pass you by. Any victory is one to be celebrated. Praise yourself.
- Cut yourself some slack – we cannot always be our best, let alone always be perfect. Sometimes we’re going to trip up and make a mess. But it’s all a part of life. What matters the most is what we do afterwards. We shouldn’t waste our time beating ourselves up, demotivating ourselves or crushing our self-confidence. Instead, take responsibility, learn a lesson and move on.
- Stop comparing yourself to others and love who you are – we all find it hard to be comfortable with who we are, where we are, and what we have. We look at others and envision a better life if we were more like them. But the truth is, everyone has insecurities and problems. We all have different stories. Focus on your own and you’ll go much further – if you don’t, it will go on without you.
Every journey begins with one step. Winning gold at the Olympics, climbing up Mount Everest, and walking on the moon – they all began with one step. Whoever we see ahead of us travelling a similar path, whoever we see ahead as victors of what we want to achieve, they too started with one step. It’s not impossible for us. We might not all be carrying the same load. But all those who are prosperous and victorious have waded through their own battles. We all have the ability to begin and to do our best. We can all reach new triumphs, new heights and new lands, if we take the first step. Anywhere worth being is worth working for. What are you waiting for?
Today marks a full year of blogging every day on The Midnight Station! Thank you to all of you who have read, liked and commented on my posts, I really appreciate it. Often, we set ourselves ambitious and laborious goals and sometimes the end isn’t quite foreseeable. In the mean time, we shouldn’t only focus on the end, because we’ll otherwise be constantly looking at what we lack, miss everything in between, and never feel satisfied. To keep motivated, inspired and positive about our journeys, we need to celebrate all our victories, including all the small ones on the way. And celebration can be as simple as consciously praising ourselves. Whether we passed on a chocolate bar, delivered a successful presentation at work, spent an hour at the gym instead of on the internet, saved a month’s earnings instead of spending it straight away, they are all victories. They are the steps that will lead us to further victories. Celebrate them.
We would never be able to fall in love if we weren’t willing to take the chance of heartbreak. We would never be able to taste victory without accepting the possibility of defeat. We would never progress forward without overcoming the threats of limits. We would never learn to appreciate what we have without having lost something valuable. We would never know how strong we can be without being pulled apart piece by piece. Let’s not hide from the beauty of life in fear that we will find run into unpleasantries. Life is only experienced in its entirety when we are open to all its offerings. Let’s not become one of those who lives in “the gray twilight that knows not victory or defeat”.
In the pursuit of our goals, there’s two broad stages: moving forward and hitting roadblocks, and our focus tends to tip to the latter rather than the former. Of course, it’s important to identify our mistakes and remain flexible to unexpected obstacles, but we need to be careful that we don’t get caught up in a negative cycle of anticipating the worst and becoming our own enemy. We need to also celebrate our accomplishments, including the milestones and not only the finish line. We need to be proud of how far we’ve come, instead of looking at how far we have to go and how far we might fall. Be proud of every victory, no matter how small. Don’t wait and miss out on the celebration.