In the depth of winter, I have learned that within me there lay an invincible summer ~ Albert Camus
I’ve been obsessed with A Great Big World’s album When the Morning Comes, so it’s hard to pick just one song off the album. But the song that drew me to the album in the first place was ‘Won’t stop running’. No matter how much darkness we have to endure, no matter how many times we fall, no matter how tightly our hands are tied, keep going. There’s something better waiting right around the corner.
Guy Winch’s ‘Why we all need to practice emotional first aid’ is most likely my favourite Ted Talk I’ve ever watched. Guy asks, why we treat physical health and pain differently to emotional health and pain? We need to start taking care of ourselves on the inside as much as on the outside. Loneliness, fear of failure, and loss, for example, are emotions we need to start acknowledging, tuning into, and doing something about. Let’s stop brushing our emotions off like they don’t or shouldn’t mean anything.
Our biggest blessing is that we are the ones in control of our fate. We make the choices. Our biggest misfortune is that we are the ones in control of our fate. We cannot wait around for great things to happen. We should not wait around for permission to make great things happen. We should not shy away from making great things happen because other things we tried never materialised. Only we can make great things happen. We have to choose to make great things happen and to let great things happen. Because greatness lies within us, not outside in the world. We have to be persistent, forgiving, loyal, flexible, and visionary. We are in control of who we are and what we do. And that’s how we’ll make it count, the only way how we’ll make things happen.
We create our own world. Our world is a representation of our experiences, encounters, perceptions, thoughts and feelings. We create our perspectives of good and bad. And with that, we create our senses of happiness and satisfaction and despair and sadness. We attach an emotion to an experience. But happiness shouldn’t be something we only find in particular experiences, because the world is sometimes uncontrollable and unfair. Happiness is something we create within – an emotion we foster due to and in spite of our experiences. We shouldn’t rely on the external world to create our happiness. It’s more about our perspective. We create happiness on the inside. Let the happiness shine from within and create a new world.
When we’re fumbling around in the dark, all we want to see is a speck of light, whether it’s in continuity or change, in loved ones or strangers. But sometimes we forget that the light might only shine from within us ourselves. Sometimes we’ll feel trapped in the darkness. But sometimes we have to be our saviours even when we feel weak, lost or scared. All we need is a little faith, strength and confidence in ourselves, even if we don’t feel like we have any, and that can spark a whole lot more.
In the coldest winters, we can make the sun shine. In the darkest nights, we can make the stars shine. In the roughest storms, we can make the lighthouse shine. And in the coldest, darkest, roughest moments, we can make ourselves shine. Shine even brighter when someone tries to blow the candle out. Don’t underestimate yourself. Nothing can dim the light that shines from within.
Who looks outside, dreams; who looks inside, awakes – Carl Gustav Jung
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We don’t need anything physically to be happy. We don’t need money. We don’t need relationships. We don’t need good looks. We don’t need other people’s opinions, acceptance or approval. We don’t need to make other people happy in order to be happy. No – we already have what we need. And we all have what we need. Gratitude. Will. Humility. Strength. Love. But ultimately, to be happy, we have to be happy with ourselves. It takes practice. It will always take work. Happiness isn’t something we can capture and hold indefinitely. But happiness is always something that grows from within. And if we understand that, happiness is always ours.