If we tallied it all up, we’d most likely find that we spend a lot of time worrying – about things in our control, things out of our control, and even things we can’t yet place in either of those categories. For the things in our control, we should take comfort in the fact that we are in charge and that we are capable enough to handle them. For the things out of our control, we should accept our limitations and learn to adapt. For all the angst we build up about the future and the unknown, let it go. If what we worry about materialises, take action. Take each day as it comes and revel in the blessings, possibilities and opportunities that each day holds. Don’t waste those treasures on what might not even be. Worry won’t save us, only rob us.
It’s alarming to think how much time we waste worrying about what has happened and what hasn’t happened. We overanalyse our past behaviour and wish we’d done something differently. We overcomplicate our future by expecting the worst scenario. We breed turmoil, anxiety and insecurity, most of which is completely unnecessary. Worst of all, we rob and deprive ourselves of the happiness we hope to have today, because our worrying encroaches on and stains anything in it’s path. We shouldn’t ignore our problems, but there is usually an appropriate time to deal with the problem or to let go and move on. Worrying really doesn’t accomplish anything.
At the end of the day, especially a long or difficult day, there is nothing we crave more than sleep. Sometimes we are past tired, exhausted, and other times we need a good night’s rest to prepare for the next day. But it’s not always that simple. In that moment right before we go to sleep, our mind seems to defy any attempt at shutting down. Perhaps there is something we have been putting off thinking about during the day, and now when we no longer have anything to occupy ourselves with, it’s all we can focus on. Or perhaps the whole day has been an endless tally of annoyances, of feeling angry or worried, and when we finally come to rest, our mind is still too hyped up. We begin to feel all those emotions again.
It is important to remember that at night time all our emotions are heightened, particularly when we are tired. We go around in circles, we dip in and out of restless sleep, and we constantly focus on everything that is wrong. But those are products of our tiredness. Don’t give into them. Think about the things that make you happy or what you feel in control of. The best way you can deal with those issues that haunt you at night is to deal with them at a time when you can actually do something about them: tomorrow. Take a deep breath, take control of your emotions and keep calm. Tomorrow morning, you will realise how much more manageable the situation actually is.
Jumping the gun (English idiom): to do something too soon
When something really matters to us, we invest a lot of energy into it. We prepare for job interviews to secure the job, we revise efficiently to get a good grade, we put effort into people to build better relationships. But there are a lot of negative energies that come with that pressure, namely self-doubt and worrying. We worry about what will happen if we don’t get that job, that grade, that friendship. We worry about our performance at the given time and convince ourselves that it went terribly, that they couldn’t possible want you or give you what you want. It’s like we’re preparing for every eventuality, but not letting ourselves focus on the more positive ones in fear that it will get our hopes up. So we concentrate on the potential negative outcomes. All we are really doing isn’t preparation but putting ourselves down and working ourselves up for something that may not even happen. True, you might not get that job, or that grade, or that friend, but it could also turn out the opposite way. Why would we worry about things that haven’t happened yet? And what does that say about us, about our confidence in ourselves and our positivity? If you’ve remained positive or even just ignored the situation after you’ve acted and done your best, then at least you haven’t wasted your energy and you can deal with the situation whatever the outcome when it arises. Worrying is so unnecessary and doesn’t achieve anything! Live your life in that moment and worry about the future when the time comes. You might even find you had nothing to worry about, and how silly would you feel then if you’ve just been negative and distressed about it?
Sometimes we worry about things that we cannot control or that we cannot deal with at that moment. Sometimes it is better to take one day at a time, be happy in that moment, and not worry about tomorrow. Otherwise we will constantly be living in anxiety and fear instead of happiness and strength.