If you look inside, you will find strength, you will find beauty, you will find wisdom. It’s easy to persuade ourselves that we’re not good enough, especially when it feels like everyone else is saying that too. But all the tools we need are right inside us. If you close your eyes and really look deep inside, you’ll find that voice of courage and love and faith. And then you need to hand a megaphone to that voice. Because you don’t deserve anything but words of love and optimism. They’ll be enough people out in the world trying to criticise you and bring you down, but don’t let them drown out your inner voice. You are strong, you are beautiful and you can conquer anything. You can be whoever you want to be.
It’s hard for us to tell ourselves that we’re beautiful and intelligent and loved. Maybe that’s because we haven’t been loved in the past or maybe that’s because we have been taught not to love ourselves. But we are all beautiful and intelligent and loved, even if we can’t see it. Our differences and our weaknesses only enhance that beauty, intelligence and love. Let’s stop doubting our worth, our capability or our strength. It’s all there, even if we don’t see it.
Your worth is not your beauty. It’s not the number of inches around your waist. It’s not your intellect. It’s not the number in your bank account. It’s not your mistakes or your past. You’re more than labels and boxes and opinions. You always deserve to give yourself another chance. You always deserve to be loved and to love yourself. You always deserve to choose who you are and where you want to go. Your worth is infinite. Especially when you stay true to yourself. Your worth is on the inside.
You have a quiet fierceness inside. It can whisper, it can roar. Don’t drown it out with arrogance or doubt. Believe in your inner worth, inner confidence, inner ability. Nothing will take you further than belief in yourself. Nobody will take you further than you. Roar from within.
You matter. Your mind matters. Your voice matters. Your body matters. Your actions matter. Your opinion matters. Your dreams matter. Your hopes matter. Your perspective matters. Don’t let anyone tell you otherwise. And especially don’t tell yourself otherwise. You are good enough. You are strong. And you are important. Don’t forget it. Don’t hide away. You matter more than you know.
Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate. Our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure. It is our light not our darkness that most frightens us. We ask ourselves, who am I to be brilliant, gorgeous, talented and fabulous? Actually, who are you not to be? We are all meant to shine.
We’re taught to sabotage ourselves repeatedly through a particular mindset. We constantly focus on the flaws of our body and our intellect and everything in between. We constantly tell ourselves that we’re not enough. We constantly brush off our talents and achievements. Why? We’ve been listening to that for too long. We’ve forgotten the power hidden within. We’ve forgotten that we are all unique and wonderful, that we all have more to offer than we thought possible, and that we’re allowed to let our light shine. Let’s stop hiding ourselves away. We deserve more than darkness. The world depends on us to keep lighting it up. Don’t leave it in darkness. Don’t leave yourself in darkness.
As the year draws to a close, we naturally reflect on what has been and what will come, who we are and who we could be. And that is beautiful. But as we do so, I’m sure we’ll find that what has been and what will be one of our biggest challenges is the feeling of being good enough. Our dreams feel too high in the sky and our prizes too much like perfection. But the truth is we don’t need to be perfect to be happy or successful. We have a whole toolkit inside our minds, from positivity to confidence to endurance to creativity. And we can mess up, we can grow, we can embrace our flaws. We’ll always be good enough and worth so much. There’s no one like you or me. In this upcoming year, let’s not tell ourselves otherwise. Let’s not limit ourselves with self hate and self doubt. Let’s free ourselves and believe in ourselves. We’re really the only thing standing in our way of everything we want.
Tis the season to be jolly. There’s something about the holiday time that changes our outlook on life. And that’s primarily because it’s a time for giving, for generosity and for kindness. We’re more forgiving and accepting of others’ flaws and mistakes. We’re more charitable and hospitable towards those less fortunate. We open ourselves up, letting love both infiltrate and radiate. Christmas time really goes to show how much giving can boost our happiness, our energy and our sense of worth. It’s a beautiful cycle that shouldn’t be underestimated or broken. It’s a spirit that we should hold onto all throughout the year.
Positivity isn’t about ignoring the worse parts of life nor is it about suppressing our negative emotions. Because we cannot avoid them. It’s rather about refusing to let those moments drain the colour out of life. Let’s have faith that things will turn out alright.
Gratitude might sometimes be in short supply. It’s natural to look at what we don’t have, reminisce about how things were or wonder about how things could be. But there’s a lot to be grateful for right on our doorstep. Let’s not take those for granted.
Self-confidence is something we’re always working on. Think about how many different choices we might make if we actually believed in ourselves, our worth and our beauty. Think about what we would attempt if we knew we wouldn’t fail. Let’s live confidently and be richer for it.
A lot hinges on our relationships and interactions with people around us: our energy, motivation, direction, choices, perspectives. That’s why it’s important we build solid, positive, fruitful and invigorating relationships around us. And cut our ties to those who take away from our life:
- The overlookers – we shouldn’t ever be made to feel worthless by those close to us. We shouldn’t ever be consistently ignored, excluded and belittled. We shouldn’t be constantly taken for granted. Although our self-worth should foremost come from within ourselves, relationships with others should nonetheless make us feel valued and appreciated.
- The nay-sayers – those around us shouldn’t distract us from where we want to go, with doubts, negativity, or self-importance. Our loved ones should encourage and push us forward, no matter how much they do not understand or agree with our choices. No matter how much they wish they could do the same too. Those close to us should want us to thrive.
- The game-changers – people who try to mould us into someone else or who won’t accept us for who we are will eventually be suffocating. And we shouldn’t have to change our very core principles and qualities for other people. We all have flaws and we should be able to embrace them, not escape them. We should be around people who love us for who we are.