Unapologetically you

authenticity quote

Be unapologetically you. We all have so much to give, and that gift is beyond rules, regulations and labels. Our thoughts, beliefs and attitude define who we are. Our actions, our gestures, and our quirks define who we are. Our passion, our words and our lifestyles define who we are. We define who we are. We might never be fully satisfied with who we are, but there’s no need to hide ourselves away. There’s plenty of space for everyone to express themselves. Being unapologetically you is the best thing you can do.

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Pay attention to who you’re becoming

Jim Rohn quote

Take care of your body. It’s the only place you’ll have to live. Take care of your soul. It’s the only thing you’ll have to live with.

We all make rash decisions in moments of anger. We all build upon bad habits in moments of apathy. We all hide parts of who we are in moments of insecurity. We all have regrets. And that’s ok. But what have we learnt from them? At the very least, that we could have done something differently. We could have thought before we spoke or spoken out instead of standing silent. We could have pushed ourselves ourselves further or given ourselves some credit. We could have spent more time on someone else or more time pursuing ourselves. Our thoughts, words, actions all build our character. And if we’re learning from our mistakes, we’re still on track. Pay attention to who you’re becoming. The only person guaranteed to stay with you is you.

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Self-Discipline and Motivation Thoughts and Tips


Self-discipline covers all aspects of life’s success. I am personally self-disciplined and self-motivated in terms of school work but when it comes to exercising and healthy eating, these terms do not seem to have a place in my vocabulary. And that’s something I’m working on. Although I’ve done a post on motivation before, which I will link at the end, I am going to give you my thoughts and tips relating self-discipline and motivation together, so I should be giving you a whole load of new tips for you to achieve your goals.

  • Firstly, you have to realise that everything you do, even those ‘ingrained’ habits, are a choice. It is you who chooses one way or another. Therefore, when you’re making choices in relation to something you’re trying to work on, think about what you’re doing, and most likely you will make the right choice if you’re serious about succeeding
  • Related to the previous point, make goals that you actually want to achieve and that you feel will make you the person you want to be, rather than having goals that you feel you should have or goals that others are pressuring you into. Otherwise you will always be on other people’s terms and you will never become enthusiastic about those goals
  • Becoming self-disciplined and sticking to a routine is difficult, especially if its a new routine or goal, but every time you accomplish it, the easier and easier it will become. This is because you become used to it and because you will begin to enjoy and even crave that sense of accomplishment. It takes hard-work, effort, and time, and self-discipline must be cultivated everyday, but eventually that will not matter and that is what will make you a self-disciplined and motivated person
  • Have a plan to achieving the ultimate goal and make specific mini or smaller goals, with figures and all. If you have no plan and no way of achieving that ultimate goal, how will you ever be motivated or disciplined?
  • Start off small in your journey to achieving your goal and build on that foundation. For example, if your goal is to become fitter, do not be extreme by assuming that you should be able to run for half an hour straight. Make it achievable, and then when you see yourself improving, which will take time, you can alter those smaller goals that are helping you achieve that ultimate goal. If your targets are unrealistic, you will never have that feeling of accomplishment, and you will not want to carry on. That doesn’t mean you can’t push yourself, just be realistic
  • Hold onto that feeling of accomplishment, especially at the beginning of the day or on those days when you want to make excuses for yourself. And keep thinking of all the benefits and positives that will come of achieving your goal
  • Once you get over the initial hurdle of the day, those excuses that your mind is making when its time to get down to business, you will quickly recover from that I-don’t-want-to-do-this mood.  For example, if you’re new goal is to wake up earlier in the morning, of course that moment when your alarm goes off, you will be tempted to sleep longer. But once you get up or you get on with whatever goal you have, I promise you will feel good when you get moving
  • Don’t put off starting the journey. Not till tomorrow, or next week, or next year. Start of small and simple, and do it now in whatever way you can
  • With that said, if you do for some reason give into a temptation one day or you don’t have time to dedicate to that goal on a particular day, for example you don’t exercise or you eat a donut, don’t give up. Don’t throw away everything for that one day. Start afresh the next day and strive to be better
  • Finally, do not expect to be the best at the beginning as you want to be in the future and don’t compare yourself to others who are further into the journey than you are. Everyone has a particular pace and plan, and if you keep thinking that you’re not seeing results from day one, then you’ll never be motivated or disciplined. Again, it takes time, patience, courage, and effort, and use those smaller accomplishments to fuel your way to the best you can be at that moment

(Also: https://themidnightstation.wordpress.com/2013/03/25/tips-for-keeping-motivated/ )


Making New Year’s Resolutions

2014 is coming up any minute, and New Year’s resolutions are in the making. But we have to put some thought in it, because that’s the only way they are going to be the most worthwhile and the most achievable.

  • What worked well last year, and how could you continue to grow on this path and step to the next level?
  • What did you regret about last year, and what could motivate you to change this part of your life?
  • What is something you’ve never done or haven’t been able to do that you’ve always wanted to?

The key thing to remember is that this is your new year. You are in control of your future, how you determine your future, and how you perceive your future. You can choose what you stick to and what you give up, what you have passion for and what you make excuses for, what you embrace and what you cower away from.
One of my favourite songs of the moment is I Feel Alive by We The Kings, and I think it captures the spirit of what we should feel in life: that we’re alive. And its time to feel the most alive, make the most of life, and make 2014 the best year yet. Happy New Year!

Run Your Own Show


Since watching Ben Affleck collect a number of nominations and awards for Argo at the BAFTAs in February 2013, including nominated Best Actor in a leading role and winning Best Director, I’ve become much more aware of the number of actors and actresses creating their own films and TV shows to star in. Lena Dunham is both a main character and creator of the comedy-drama Girls, as is Mindy Kaling in The Mindy Project. When researching this, I found out that this was common in the film industry, with Barbara Streisand, Woody Allen, Tom Hanks and others starring in films they directed. At first this seemed to me a bit conceited, but the more I thought about it, the more I began to realise that they were just creating an opportunity in their chosen discipline, making something they were truly passionate about, they had a clear vision of how to execute their goals, rather than waiting around for the perfect projects to come along.

In this vicious cycle of thinking, I wondered why, in these times of recession and unemployment, we can’t create our own opportunities too. In today’s world, we are overwhelmed with the false hope that life happens and we will be rewarded at some point, that everything happens to us by externally driven forces and therefore we don’t have to work for anything. Similarly, we are bombarded with the negativity on how hard it is to get a job and create the lifestyle we want, which only lessens our appetite for the journey to our goals. We too easily cower away from success when something doesn’t go according to plan. But, after all, its dedication and perseverance, coupled with failure and vision, that lifts you to success, and only you have the power to nurture these traits within yourself.

The time for creating your own opportunities can spark from a moment in your life where you feel idle and helpless; but unemployment, for example, doesn’t need to be thought of as a waste. The desire to create your own opportunities can also come from a time when you are at a crossroads, or need a change in direction, or simply cannot find the place you want to be in. If you are lost, don’t stay in one spot and hope somebody comes to find you, but make use of your time to figure things out for yourself, because it is you who is living your life. For example, create a blog, whether its one full of photography and collages, or one of random musings and lifestyle posts. If you prefer talking, create a YouTube channel. Learn a new language or get to grips with a useful computer programme to enhance your employability. Volunteer for an organisation that you are passionate about. Self-advertise and create a greater media presence on social networking sites. Use connections or contacts and reach out. In the end, it all comes down to whether or not you decide that every moment is worth seizing, and that you should take possession of those idle times, in all aspects of social life and work life. You can be both a character and a creator in your own life and the bigger picture.